Sex Addiction?

As we have been inundated with the news panels on the latest adultery scandal with actress Dandra Bullock’s husband Jesse James (News heading below)

“Sandra Bullock’s husband Jesse James is seeking unspecified in-patient treatment after being caught in a media storm amid reports he had multiple mistresses.”

The debate about sex addiction becomes absolutely boring and a bit foolish. Is it really a addiction? Are men just using that as a excuses to not face the consequences of there actions?

The therapy people of the world just love this! What becomes so frustrating for me in watching this is that the perspectives taken do not get to the root issue of the problems in the peoples lives. Tiger Woods and his wife had great goals when married, with great thoughts and feelings towards one another no doubt. They are not stupid people who got married in Vegas after knowing each other for a day or two, but people who dated and thought through there life as husband and wife. But why then does this not last or prevent adultery? Because all the right goals and pursuits in this world, no matter how noble or praise worthy is not the glue that holds marriage together in wholeness or better yet…holiness. Now the world thinks so. Therapy from the worlds perspective just says you need to be more compatible (hence e-harmony, preached on the Michael Nedveed show), have common goals, spiritually, financially etc… and your good to go. But as statistics bear out in the church and out of it, that is not the case.
The reason guys or girls (no one mention them, though these guys are having sex with them), engage in sex outside of marriage is simply because they are not satisfied. Not sexually by there wives, but because they have a porn view of sex, and of life. They like the women at the well in John chapter 4 went from one pleasure to another because they did not know the one who could give them satisfaction and complete pleasure. The fact is that no person on the earth can satisfy you!!! Did you hear that… I don’t care how much alike you are, you will never, ever, ever be complete in another other than your creator. Only He can give you what you need and the proper view of love which shows itself in the bedroom to the way you relate to enemies. You are complete in HIM (Christ, Colossians 2:10). The reason no one on earth can satisfy you is because they are the walking dead, mortal, & sinful. Discribing people that way helps us understand that we cannot be filled with peace and complete pleasure by this kind of entity. We need a eternall love and pleasure that brings lasting peace, not bondge. The pleasure of this world (i.e. sex) does not last, hence the need for Tiger or Jesse James to seek this false pleasure again and again.
Tiger and Jesse are products of a porn way of looking at sex as a way to be pleased (satisfied). Solomon, King David and many other Biblical guys have fallen into the same pursuit, yet for them it was accepted in the culture. They were rich, as Tiger and Jessee James and with that financial status comes the opportunity to pursue a King’s pleasures, though they will not satisfy.
Is it a addiction, sure if you define addiction as a habitual behavior that leads to destruction of family, friends and yourself. Do these guys say this to get out of the responsibility of it? Time will tell of the intents of the heart, but the only reason it’s considered bad in the culture is because of the way we currently view women (not as property as in the past) and a Christian (though it’s fading) view of marriage, one man and women for life…(this to is passing away in our culture)
Let’s look at things from a Biblical point of view and not a psychological/therapy view. ”In God’s light we see light (clearly)” Psalm 36:9
For more on this subject please check out my book, Porn & A Pastor at http://www.tatepublishing.com/bookstore/book.php?w=978-1-61566-015-5

Fighting the good fight!

The ministry that I started this year, Running Light Ministry, was created to get the Word in our churches that Christ is more pleasurable than porn. That might shock you a bit, but it is the theme of the Bible! God is more better than anything. Psalm 36:8 'You give us drink from the river of your pleasures."
We have been able to participate in various events in Tucson this year and look fowrad to more oppurtunities to educate Tucson with the impoact of the Porn industry in our world, and what you can do to get out! If you can use this ministry in any way please let me know! Our website is www.runninglight.org
We seek to educate, but help those in bondage and their spouses!

Joel Rosenberg 9-11 townhall at Calvary Christian

Inside the Revolution 9/11

Calvary Christian Fellowship of Tucson will be hosting via satallite the Inside The Revolution Documentary on 9/11 at 6:30 in our main worship center.

In 1979, the Ayatollah Khomeini seized power in Iran, unleashed the Islamic Revolution, and changed the world forever. Three decades later, New York Times best-selling author Joel C. Rosenberg brings you a groundbreaking documentary film that takes you inside the three most dramatic movements of our time:

•THE RADICALS—Why do Radical Muslims want to annihilate the United States and Israel? Why do they believe the Islamic Messiah’s arrival on Earth is “imminent” and the End of Days is at hand? How close are they to acquiring nuclear weapons and achieving their apocalyptic objectives?
•THE REFORMERS—Aren’t there any Muslims who believe the Radicals are wrong? Is there any real hope such Reformers can create real democracies in Iraq, Afghanistan, and elsewhere?
•THE REVIVALISTS—Is it really true that millions of Muslims are abandoning Islam and turning to faith in Jesus Christ? How is it happening? What are their stories?
Inside the Revolution is a 90-minute documentary film with extensive special features and exclusive interviews with:

•Porter Goss, former director of the Central Intelligence Agency
•Lt.-General (ret.) Jerry Boykin, former Delta Force commander and deputy undersecretary of defense for intelligence
•Hon. Benjamin Netanyahu, the prime minister of Israel
•Senior Iraqi government officials
•Joel C. Rosenberg, author and founder of The Joshua Fund
Filmed on location in Iraq, Turkey, Morocco, Israel, the United Kingdom, and Washington, D.C.

Every TV in the United States!

Posted on August 7, 2009 by runninglight
By Beau J. Ouellette
Ever wonder why porn addiction in constantly growing? Well my blog for today is to give you a insight to the amazing distribution of the porn industry (movies here) to all American homes through a company called, NEW FRONTIER MEDIA based in Boulder Co.
As Internet porn gets most of the media attention, do you realize that every TV in the United States has porn piped in, ready to view through V.O.D. channels? (Video On Demand) This is not my boast, but of N.F.M. themselves. Here is a quote from their website;
?The Transactional TV segment distributes branded adult television programming to cable and satellite television companies. Content is distributed to nearly every television household in the United States. Pay-per-view and video-on-demand programming competes well with other forms of entertainment because it is offered conveniently in the comfort of user?s homes, is high quality, and at a reasonable price point. Retail customers pay as much as $14.99 for one of our features. This compares with an average of $3.99 for big Hollywood releases. The Transactional TV segment operates a 12,000 square foot digital broadcast center in Boulder, Colorado that includes a vast content library comprising over 10,000 hours of digital content.?
I thought this quote to be quite informative. This company makes it?s money from porn. As we order it on our V.O.D. you can see at a quite high price compared to the average Hollywood video, we are benefiting N.F.M. and it?s constituents. The company?s boast is that it has a huge building that holds over 10,000 hours of porn content! That?s just what we need!!! (joking)
I pray for this company?s owners. I don?t believe they know not what they do. Many, I?m sure, invest in a growing, cutting edge company like this without even knowing it. I have a I.R.A?.I wonder if some of that gets put into a company like this?
But what keeps a company like this going is me, us, you, etc?. Yes, we have laws that make porn available to all, but do we have to buy it, watch it and then come back again and again? Cable, V.O.D. is a approximate 2 billion dollar a year revenue. This is not going away, it?s too big! But for us Christians let?s go after something more pleasurable.
?You satisfy from the fullness of your house and you give us drink from the river of Your Pleasures!? Psalm 36:8

The Wrong Well...MSNBC Porn Industry Expose

I was given a call by my partners in Running Light MInistries last night, letting me know about the up-coming Porn industry exlusive that would be aired this weekend (July 20). I actually did not want to watch it, but then my wife told me she recorded it for me to see if there were any new things that would contribute to my research on the influencce of porn worldwide.

I confess I watched it in fast forward most of the time. It's amazing how the news media just get's done talking with a man that has been addicted to porn for years, his life ruined, only to then show a famous porn star pole dancing in nothing?! It points to a importanat point.

"For what man knows the things of a man except the spirit of the man which is in him? Even so no one knows the things of God except the Spirit of God."

The carnal man, and in this case MSNBC, does not understnad what they do. It seems obvious to me that showing porn, while getting done interviewing a man that has been in bondage to porn only contruibutes to ...more showing of porn..(that's what there doing)

But to those that are not thinking of the things of God they are blinded to the contradiction of it all.

The other interesting note I thought about while watching it, was that the Porn industry is no longer taboo at all. It was justified in the news piece by it's lack of critical questions to those women that were involved in the business side of the industry. I got the take the interview was as interviewing any fourtune 500 company. How are they going to survive in the economy? What is the internet doing to impoact the industry? How are the employee's comensated?

Instead you saw how "normal" the once marginal is. Women in Porn have kids, nice houses, business savy staff and marketing teams.

Let's pray for these people in the industry. For the men and women that are involved in it. They do not know the Lord and His pleasure. I was once blind but now I see and I believe the Lord is reaching out to these as well. They are simply looking for water from the wrong well. (John 4)

"He who comes to me will never be thirsty again"
Jesus

A note to Pastor's

I am a Pastor.

I too am 37 years old.

Porn has been a norm throughout my life. I mean it is not shocking or something to be thought of as discusting etc... This is my sick, sinful culture.

What really makes me disturbed is that I am getting older and the culture is more blind as ever to perversity and porn, though it is talked about all the time.

The news picks apart those in our goverment that have scandals it seems every year. People who are famous that are addicted to porn are on the front page. O'Riley comentates on a culture of youth that take photos of there sexual behavior to send then via their cell phones to friends. As it sounds so Marginal there is a amazing double standard which expresses loudly that porn is the norm.
These same news stations have the most glamourous looking ladies as there news anchors. They are articulate, smart, educated, succesful, Religious and wear provocative cloths!
It is tough for a man or lady for that matter that stuggles with porn, to view news today. It seems that the porn influence is just about everywhere. What ever happened to older news reporters? Do they all have to be models today?

This is our world.

For my generation porn is not marginal, but very much like Israel's worship of Baal and the other false God's that where about sex.

Pastors stuggle with porn. The stats say quite a bit do. There is hope in Christ as you know, but there is a need for refreshing and renewing through seeking the Glory of God.

I am one that has fallen before and am ashamed of it. It effects my family, ministry and dis-honors the Name of the Lord.
If you are out there please visit www.settingcaptivesfree.com or www.runninglight.org

Will anyone talk about the influence of Porn?

Today on the news we have the porn influence all over it.

"The Bobbits meet again" and "Pageant Paid For Miss Calif. Implants."

What I find so interesting about these two stories on The Early Show is that neither of them mentioned porn as being a influence into the decisions for which they have received the news converge.

"Miss California Pageant Co-Director Keith Lewis confirmed on The Early Show Friday. He also said reports that the Miss California pageant helped foot the bill for the operation were true."

Maggie Rodriguez who interviewed Keith Lewis sounded appalled that getting breast implants would increase her changes of winning. It sounded a bit staged to me. I mean where does Maggie live? Pluto! Everyone today who has gone to a store has more then likely bought a doll that had a Miss America figure with... well, a we endowed set of breasts.

In the book, "The Porning of America" by Sarracino and Scott they show a picture of a Bratz doll to show how the porn model for women has become the norm. They call it, "Normalizing the Marginal."

And this is what has happened with women. Having a porn body has become the standard. This Miss California girl has been raised around pictures, shows, mannequins (In stores), books, music video's and the like that all normalize the porn look. Women over the past 40 years have been taught that there worth is that of a man's. Just as a man works and improves to get better and better at his job so a women's worth is now the same. One big problem... In emphasizing this equality or value to the society, her worth as a mother, nurturer and a child bearer has been diminished drastically.

And this is what porn does. It shows women who pursue there worth in pleasure (like a man) and not in the ability to produce a child and raise it.

This change of worth is so different then in any other time in History. Women have always been valued for there ability to have children. But not any more! This change has also lead to why in this country we have such a gender problem. Technology has made this possible. Porn has shown that women can pursue pleasure (perceived pleasure at that) and not have children.

Ok, enough of that...back to Miss California. Why get breast implants? Because we have normalized it! We like it. We all like our porn in some way or another. The influence of porn is staggering and it is not just a man problem. 1 out of 3 viewers on porn sites are... You guessed it? Women.

Psalm 4:2 How long will you love worthlessness and seek falsehood?